Letting go

..how hard is that?!!!

Letting a child decide their own future

even when you think it is a bad choice?

Standing by and doing nothing

while your heart is breaking and you

want it to be different?

Not being able to make your point of view

known, heard and respected?

Hearing one thing and feeling another?

Oh, being a parent is heart-breaking at times

....isn't it?

Young adults have ways totally alien

to us oldies with different values

and ethics,or so it seems to me.

I am sure my parents felt exactly the same

about decisions I made when younger.

Back then I had no choice but to do what

they said had to happen.

It proved disastrous in some cases.

In others they were probably right to intervene.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Foresight is a different matter entirely.

Do we expect too much from them?

Do we expect too little?

I have no idea, truly.

One thing I do know is that burying ones head in the proverbial sand

does not lead to solutions.

It makes things worse in the end.

Those dreadful words

" I told you so" 

will be uttered.

"Why wouldn't you let me help you"?

I find harder to come to terms with.

Should I be more open and see the positive way ahead

then?

Or does my old-school belief that education matters

just fly out of the window and never be heard again?

I am at a loss to understand, comprehend and support

an action I cannot agree with in my head and heart.

Keeping my mouth closed and my opinion to myself

is getting harder and harder to bear.

Sue xx